I hope you are having happy holidays without too much stress, or any at all! It certainly seems that no matter how much I love Christmas lights and wrapping presents, strain and pain are in the air this time of year and it is very easy to be affected by everyone else.
I always have an idea of having a relaxed holiday where we enjoy decorating cookies and watching movies at home. And suddenly I am worried about spending too much money but not having enough gifts to make everyone happy, or disappointing our extended family by not traveling to visit.
Are you feeling your relationship might be suffering with some holiday post traumatic stress? Here are some tips on how to let it go and reset!
My first tip: acknowledge the stress. Why do people suffer in silence? Are you trying to avoid being a burden to your partner or family? A lot of us grew up with at least one parent who tried to hide their stress from us but kids are aware of what is going on with their parents,
How much of you do you have to avoid to avoid being a burden?
Vulnerability
Is it even yours?
Is it fun to stay irritated with your partner and have an unending pit of tension and resentment between you?
What do you love about the fight? You wouldn’t do it if you didn’t find it valuable.
They’re not wrong and neither are you. If you realize that nothing is wrong, you can eliminate stress. Nothing is personal. No is right.
Let people choose for themselves and figure out how to choose what works for you.
Realize the gift this is.
Be willing to change your mind.
Follow what is honoring for you.
Elements of Intimacy
We have talked about two elements of intimacy so far, vulnerability and honor.
Trusting you.
Gratitude
Allowance
What if you could choose to have a totally awesome relationship every day, not wait for the new year to create your love life and have everything show up whenever it shows up?!
