The more you can acknowledge what’s great about your partner, not positively judge him, but admitting what’s true, and even if you have acknowledged it, acknowledge it more so more of them can show up! If you acknowledge how much more ease it is to make more money with your partner in your life, get ready for more money ease to show up.
And you can change anything by acknowledging what you know. What do you know? Even if you are in the middle of a fight, what can you acknowledge that will change it? I pick a fight or my husband starts an argument, I always know that it’s not personal and we are not fighting about whatever we are talking about. There is always something beneath it that is causing the tension.
Which for me is a relief because I never have to worry about taking every word to heart. You never have to take anything personally! The problem is almost never what you think it’s about. What’s not being said? And what’s not being said in your relationship that if you say it will create something greater?
How much of your life is spent analyzing and thinking about what someone said or how they took what we said? How much of our lives are spent in worry, or stressed or in reaction to what someone said? And meanwhile, what’s not being said, that needs to be acknowledged? Acknowledgement is like a key that sparks the ignition and then your life starts going and you can go faster because you know you can drive that car.
How would you like the relationships to be that you are the driver of? You are the leader of your relationships because you are choosing all of them. And everything that shows up, you are choosing to put up with or respond to, but if you acknowledge what you would like to show up and who you would like to show up in your life, while having no expectations with how your desire actualizes, whether its a boyfriend, or a marriage, or a break up, a new beginning….
Are you willing to acknowledge who you desire and what about them you desire? And let yourself be surprised with who actually shows up? And it might be your husband, or your best friend of 20 years, or the guy at the grocery store…and if it is someone specific and you are in love with someone, have you told them? And if you refuse to tell them, is it actually true for you? Is it love? A crush? Lust? Someone else’s idea? The right guy?
When you truly desire someone you know it, and when I truly desire someone, I tell them. And even being married, what if you don’t stop expressing your desire? Just watch what changes when you acknowledge your desire, even if you have been together for a long time!
What if it is a gigantic gift to tell someone you are in love with them even if they are not available to be in a relationship with you? Even if they aren’t in love with you or reject you or never talk to you again? Whatever you have decided is going to happen? What else is possible
If you need someone to love you back, don’t share your feelings. If you need your crush to crush you back, don’t say a word. That feeling of need will push everyone away, and it’s not true. And if you have decided you need anybody you are lying to yourself and you are refusing to have something different and much better than whatever you have decided you need a relationship for. And if you have decided you need a relationship with someone who is not available, are you lying to yourself?
A lot of people choose to fall for people who are not available to them or even interested in them. If you are wondering about letting someone know you care about them or even in love with them, are you willing to say that with no expectation and are you willing to lose them? There are moments when it’s time to say I love you and moments when it’s time to say goodbye, and what if every moment is about getting stronger?
If someone or something lights you up with joy, acknowledge it, what is that ? What is this that is so fun and turns my head? And then acknowledge what you love and desire without deciding that you need it? And what if relationships were not necessities but possibilities, for fun? What if we even had fun getting our hearts broken? Because that will happen, even if you are in a relationship or not, your heart will break at some point. What if the pain is part of the pleasure? What if the heartbreak makes you stronger? And the gift of acknowledging not only makes you stronger but greater?
Do you love you? It’s ok if you don’t. Is there one thing you like about yourself? One thing. Your hair. Your laugh. Your love of cooking. What can you acknowledge about you? And even if you don’t love you, what can you acknowledge about you, even if it hurts? Which is why acknowledgment is such a gift because you just have to start and it gets easier and easier. We may not have ever been taught to acknowledge ourselves and what’s great about us, or eachother, because we have been only taught to judge. And judgment is the opposite of acknowledgement because it’s a lie, so you can’t know it. You can’t know that you are wrong, you have to pretend you are wrong.
And what if you didn’t make yourself wrong for whatever is true for you? You are not wrong. And whatever is true for you will feel light, and bright, and sparkly and interesting and fun..
And what if you follow those sparkles? And when you meet someone and notice those sparkles again, acknowledge it! What if you go say hello or ask them out for coffee? And that vulnerability to choose toward who or what you love, and saying it! And it’s not saying I love you to everyone and everything, but just even saying hello is an acknowledgment! Do you say hello to your love? Or let them walk out the door in silence?
When you refuse to acknowledge, what are you avoiding receiving more of in your life? Acknowledgment is a key again to receiving more but also to trusting what you know, claiming that knowledge, which I highly recommend because if you begin to acknowledge where you trust yourself, you are going to become unstoppable because you can only trust what you know.
Do you know what honoring yourself includes? Holding yourself in regard always? Are you willing to acknowledge your vulnerability? Your gratitude? Your choices? And again, your desires? The gift you are in those lucky enough to know you?
Who will you light up with sparkles, lust and possibility? How much more of that joy would you be willing to have yourself and everyone who talks to you? Follow the sparkles, the pleasure, the fun… even in the worst of times, even when he breaks your heart, even when there is another girl, even when you have a bad date, what if you never give up on what you truly desire?
